At 97 years of age and with a career in the entertainment industry that spans more than 80 years, when Gold Girls actress Betty White utters a thing or two about sex and aging, one might make sure to pay extra attention.
“I don’t have a fella, but if Allen [her late and third husband]—or Robert Redford—were around, we’d have a very active sex life. Does desire melt away with age? I’m waiting for that day to come. Sexual desire is like aging—a lot of it is up here [points to her head].”
Betty White was born in 1922 and back then having an open conversation about sex was pretty much a taboo. Couples were supposed to wait until they got married before engaging in any form of sexual activity and after reaching upon a certain age, such as the golden ages (past 50), having sex became obsolete.
But times have changed and thanks to social media, we have images of people who are past their 50s and living their lives to the fullest. But despite the vast amount of people at this age group who are experiencing great happiness and enjoying a fulfilling sex life, the belief of no sex after reaching a certain age is still a common notion. We all hope to live long and enjoyable lives, and though our bodies age, that doesn’t mean we should stop living with the zeal that once defined our youth. So here are six other myths about sex after 50 and why you should stop believing in them.
Couples lose interest in each other.
All couples at every age group need to work on their relationship in order to keep things fresh.
A man’s inability to get an erection is most likely the result of a medical or physical problem.
Our interest in all things changes as we get older. Naturally, when an older man can’t achieve an erection we quickly assume it’s because of some condition due to aging. Most men begin to experience a gradual decline in testosterone upon reaching the age of 30. A decrease in sex drive sometimes accompanies this drop in testosterone but that doesn’t necessarily mean a loss of interest in sex.
A woman loses her ability to have orgasms as she ages.
To the contrary, many women experience an increase of sexual pleasure after menopause; at times this includes more frequent or more intense orgasms.
Being Sexy is Reserved for the Youth.
This is simply not true. A woman doesn’t need to show skin to be sexy and large muscles on a man body don’t necessarily mean he’s attractive. Sexiness starts with an internal feeling that travels outward.
Common ways to keep a sex life going
1. Exercise Regularly
2. Keep it interesting by trying new things in the bedroom
3. Go and Think Beyond Simple Intercourse
4. Be Mindful of How Any Medication May Affect Your Body
5. Take Things Slow After Surgery or Illness
6. Talk Things Out with Your Partner